Black cars look better in the shade

and so do black baby buggies! I was  at an event yesterday . It was a family type thing with hundreds of family types  milling about lolling in the sunshine . I was surprised to see just how popular black baby buggies, strollers or whatever you chose to call them have really become . Poor little munchkins inside! Seriously unless your black carriage is lined with a light colour this is a poor choice of  colour for a kiddy conveyance. Black heats up because it absorbs the heat. Basic science! A little  plastic window is no relief from the sun nor is a little screen vent . If you have kids it is inevitable that these types of events will come up  so when making your choice consider this advice - AND they show crumbs and sneezes and drizzled milk so they don't look smart for long unless you are one of those rare parents that are meticulous and have a fastidious baby as well!

Now that you know that can you tell me what Gino Vanelli was taking about ?

If you can't say something nice

I am a feminist. I don't believe for one minute that women should put up with guff from ANY man and certainly not, from their husbands. I am not the "suffer in silence" type nor do I think anyone else should, however, it is wise to consider what you say about your spouse or significant other. It is very easy to make them the butt of your jokes or to speak disparagingly about them. This can often be learned behaviour, the way your mother spoke about your father or the way your father "joked about your mother" within your hearing or perhaps even to you. It can be a need to belong when getting together with your girlfriends, siblings, buddies or cronies.

Consider how this reflects on you. Consider what it says about the choice that you have made in a partner. Consider what it says about the person who should be the single most important person in your life, perhaps the person you have chosen to raise a family with. The person who was there before when you were a couple and with careful nurturing, the person who will be there as you grown into a family and if you become parents perhaps when your days as parents will have dimmed. Your partner for now and ever.

As good as it can feel to sound off to friends perhaps sometimes that is just your contribution to the group and perhaps there is an element of exaggeration or a boasting to the bad behaviour. Does it really need to be said ? Isn't there something else you can bring to the table ? Something well done ? Some thoughtful deed done for you ? If you can't find something good to say perhaps it's time to stop and consider what you have done that it thoughtful or worthy of positive comment for your partner and if you can't think of anything now is the time to figure out what you can do to be more considerate more thoughtful or kinder. This is a door that swings both ways.

Be kind.